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August 7, 1995

All the guys I really love are older, like about five years. They all turn out to be playing the younger girls they date, but I can't help falling in love with older guys. The past 16 guys I've dated have played me, used me or cheated on me. What should I do?

It's not so much a problem that you like older men, but that you like men who do not have sweet hearts. But I am not an expert on human romance, so I will defer to another expert.

You wanna go out? (You don't have to worry about me. I'm only three!)

Another human, please!

I am so sorry to say, it is in the nature of human attraction that we are drawn to people not because they are wonderful peoples, or because they are good for us, but because they seem to feel some empty space inside us. It is like chocolate, which we often do not eat because we are hungry or because we think it will nourish us, but because it comforts us.

Sixteen cheaters in a row strongly suggests a pattern: you are attracted to a certain type of man for the wrong reasons. I am not a therapist, but I think you should examine what empty space in you keeps craving satisfaction in this type of man.

Remember, please, that despite all appearances, it is not the being with another person that will heal our empty spaces, but in being with ourselves.

Is there a cure for boredom? I am bored most of the time.

You're asking me? I've sat for the last 10,000 years on a cliff overlooking the jungle. Being a big stone head, it's not so easy for me to travel. So stop complaining or I'll turn you into a rabbit pellet. See if you find that more exciting.

It befuddles my mind that so many people say they watch television because they are bored. I am sure it would be the other way around.

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